Ahhh... My life has A Plan!

Yes, yes I know, my life usually has a plan, even if the plan is to not have a plan :-).

I know, that was confusing for no reason... lol

We had appointments for Alexander today :-).  The fluid in his brain has continued to accumulate, but the good news is that his head has also continued to expand which does allow for brain development, assuming that's what God allows.  So, assu,ing that there are no proverbial bumps in the road... Alexander will officially join us "on the outside" on July 7th, surgery is scheduled for 11am! Yikes! Yay! And oh my wow, thats onky 2 weeks away!!

Summer Time!

I don't know what "summer" means at your house.... but at our house, it means we spend LOTS of family time together!!  It's great fun, even when we're simply cleaning the house together and tackling the big projects that don't get done unless hubby is home ;-)/  It also means mommy doesn't spend nearly as much time online!  I tend to not get on the computer unless I HAVE to, or if hubby needs me to do something for him online or for his work stuff!  So, it may mean longer between updates, but please trust that no news is good news!

Last week (Tuesday even) we had an OB appt and a meeting with the Neonatologist.  OB says everything looks great :-).  AKA it was one of those really boring end of pregnancy appointments where he measured fundal height and checked on Alexander's heartbeat.  He also became my favorite OB ever by listening to me cough once and prescribing an antibiotic to help me kick whatever was trying to bring me down!  The neonatologist consultation was much more exciting!  The general outcome of that conversation was that what Alexander has looks to be treatable, relatively easily, and NOT on an emergency basis!  So, we'll be able to move slowly and have a baby (scheduled c-section thanks to eeh size of his head) who will go directly to the NICU to start IVs and antibiotics as a precaution, but then we'll be able to slow down a little bit and assess and gather information to make informed decisions rather than jumping into surgeries RIGHT AWAY.  Doesn't mean that his surgery won't be within the first day or so, just that it will likely not be within hours of birth!  And, they want me to stay pregnant as long as possible so that Alexander will have as few "preemie" complications as possible... but the big meeting of the minds is tomorrow (the 17th) and they'll likely discuss then when we will deliver!  So, we could know a section date as early as when they're out of their meeting tomorrow, or as late as our next perinatologist appt and OB appt which is next Monday, the 23rd!!  EEKK!!  So, this week hubby is back to work, summer football practice started this morning!  and we have the "boy" room to get ready (it hasn't been painted since my little brother painted it 15 years ago or so... and you can definitely tell it was painted by a 10(?) year old...), and I should probably really start thinking about getting a hospital bag together. and we're having a YARD SALE this weekend, trying to boost the bottom line of our budget by a bit, since hubby doesn't get another paycheck til the end of JULY!

In other news, while I'm very thankful for medical insurance, it's really stressing me out right now.  I just got a bunch of paperwork in the mail to shift through about picking new plans and dates and EEKK!!  I have a BUNCH of doctors that are going to want to get paid, not deal with insurances fighting over who's supposed to pay... and you know they will argue about it... so, I must be off so that I can research and make an informed decision, and try to pick the best plan for ALL of us...   Thanks ACA. I REALLY appreciate it... NOT!!!

Phone Calls

Anyone who has known me for any period of time knows that I hate talking on the phone... I despise it.  Half the time I can't hear what someone is saying, usually because one of the bunch is yelling, sometimes because I just can't hear, sometimes because well, I'll admit it, I tend to multitask a LOT and I get distracted by the things that are in front of me rather than the voice on the other end of the phone.  Most phone calls, I let them go to voice mail, because I have no clue who it is that might be calling me.  Recently though, I've learned to jump and answer when the phone rings!  Remember when we all had corded phones and no Caller ID and always jumped and ran to the phone to see who might be on the other end?!  Yup, I"m turning into that girl again!  I remember when I was little it was usually my grandmother or my best friend down the street calling.  Now, I jump and run because it might be a Doctor's office!  I thought about this because the Neonatologist office just called.  I was getting all jittery and excited waiting for the phone to actually connect so I could talk to the receptionist... wondering if maybe, just maybe, the meeting of the high degreed, well practiced, smarter than me doctors was this morning. You see, when this meeting happens, they will be discussing Alexander's health and a proposed treatment plan for him, and discussing when will be the best time to schedule his arrival!  So, I answered, all excited to hear what Jessica had to say.  Yes, I knew who was calling before I answered since she is the only one who has ever called me from that office, and I have her direct line stored in my phone ;-).  So, are you excited yet?!  It was a really dull conversation, she just needed to change the time of our appointment, at the doctor's request, but no other information.  Just changed the time, which makes for a shorter day in Orlando, so there's always a bright side :-).

Now, if I could just figure out a way to turn the rest of the week of the doctor appointments on Tuesday and Hubby's work conference on Friday and Saturday into a vacation... I would so love to take the kids to the Tampa Aquarium and the Orlando Science Center...

Off to do some research into CHEAP tickets and a hotel room :-)... Hey, a mom can dream right?!

How Life Works...

Many people ask us about how we do things, or how our family operates, or how we make it work with all these kids!  Well, let me tell you this, it's not easy!! Until you work together.  and yes, I know I've blogged about this before, but as more people are finding our blog as I've been posting it more to Facebook (www.facebook.com/supertonka), I'd like to just answer them all here!

It all started like this... 

Yup, that's the day that Hubby officially proposed.  We already had quite the family, and wanted to continue to build it together!  We've now added 3 more to our brood, though most people only count the Hippo, since she's the only one they can see.

So... to answer the questions I usually get...

How can I stay home?  Well, because hubby works like a crazy person!  

By day, he is a High School Cafeteria Manager.  Does that bring home amazing money? NO!! not at all, but we pay our bills, have a roof over our heads and have gas in our vehicles, so does it really matter that we can't afford crazy vacations and trips to the salon, only sometimes when mommy isn't feeling like a DIYer...  

We pay cash, we save money every where we can, and though we do afford ourselves luxuries like cable and smartphones, we would cut those out too if it was a choice between those luxuries and feeding our family.  

We wheel and deal!  Hubby was (in another life) a businessman in the antique/art/auction business, and sometimes, when he gets a bug up his sleeve, he starts up again.  We'll buy something CHEAP at a yard sale and he trades and sells and buys his way into what he wants!  It's quite entertaining to watch, though sometimes the kids and I hide in the car so we don't have to listen to the man sell ice to Eskimos (no seriously, sometimes I really believe he could do it!). 

We aren't afraid to work oddball jobs!  Check out the How We Provide tab on our blog to see just what all we do!

And... to top all that off, I"m a photographer.  I work from home (obviously!), but because I can schedule photo shoots around our family schedule, it works out great for us!  I can shoot anything from families to newborns to weddings and commercial deals, so if you need something done and you're local, hit me up!!

How do we keep the house clean?

HAH! Hubby would say it isn't ;-).

But, we do what we do through TEAMWORK!  Everyone has a job, even the Hippo.  The boys deal with trash, everyone helps with grocery shopping and putting away, the kids put away the dishes that mommy washes, everyone puts their own belongings and clothing away, and CHORES are my best friend!  Everyone has their chores, and they have to be done, or the house will quickly fall apart and be nearly unlivable!  Just please, if you drop by and think that the house is a mess, remember that WE LIVE HERE, not just exist.

How do we get places in a halfway timely fashion?

Again, Hubby would say that we don't.  Simply because he lives on Lombardi time and thinks that "on time" is LATE!  but again, the way we get out of the house is simple, TEAMWORK! (Are you noticing a theme?)  Wherever we go does require pre-planning, at least to an extent.  I typically get the girls showered and dressed, hubby brushes their hair and diapers, zips and buttons as needed while I take my shower and get dressed.  The bigger kids help the little kids find shoes and get them on.  The big Bubba gets the diaper bag packed with essentials while I do the girls hair... seriously, their 3 heads and my 1 of hair probably accounts for at least half the time we get ready!  Sinead O'Conner might have been on to something with her haircut ;-)!  Than on our way out the door, hubby and I tie up any loose ends as the kids load up!

How do we feed everybody?

Well, at the table! :-).  I menu plan a week to two weeks at a time, I shop sales, and we aren't afraid of leftovers!  They might be reused in the original way they were cooked, or completely remade, but assuming that they don't get lost in the depths of the fridge (AKA behind the milk!) most everything gets used at least once more before it is all gone!  Our kids have to eat what's in front of them, thankfully we don't deal with any food allergies, and that's that!  You finish your appropriately portioned plate, and you deal with it!  There have been a few times when my spices went crazy and dinner was too spicy for someone, and in that instance, they had to try it, and were allowed to make a PB&J when their eyes started watering ;-).  See, I'm not totally mean!  Oh, and mommy cooks, typically daddy dishes while the kids get drinks and utensils, the kids run plates to the table, and EVERYONE clears their own plate!  Even the Hippo when we let her ;-).

I think that's about it for the "normal" questions!  Do you have a question?  I'll try my best to answer it... just leave it in a comment below!

My grace is sufficient for you...

It's what Christ said to Paul, and I believe that the promise of 2 Corinthians 12:9 is for me (and our family) too!  Paul was writing to the church at Corinth and he was telling them of a problem that he was having, likely a physical problem, and well, this is what he said: "7 and lest I should be exalted above measure by teh abundance of the revelations, a thorn in the flesh was given to me, a messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I be exalted above measure.  8 Concerning this thing I pleaded with the Lord three times that it might depart from me. 9 And He said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.  10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ's sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong."  WOW. So the Apostle Paul, called out of sin by Christ Himself to spread the word of God to ALL people dealt with infirmities of all kinds, including those which God would not take away from him, telling him instead that "My grace is sufficient for you, for my strength is made perfect in weakness".  I've heard it all my life, that God is a gentleman who would never force Himself on any of us, but that He stands at the door and knocks and WAITS for US to open the door to Him.  But what happens if we don't open the door, well, the simple answer is that we will die in our sins and be eternally with the devil in Hell.  But if, no when, we open that door, all kinds of amazingness is opened to us.  God promised that in Him we would have life, and not just life, that we would have it ABUNDANTLY.(John 10:10).  So, when we put everything in Him, all the stress, the worries, the medical issues, just life... He promised that He would be our strength (My strength is made perfect in weakness), and that we would be blessed with an ABUNDANT life.  How awesome is that.  Just the reminder that I needed this week.

So, yesterday's Dr appointments.  Our perinatologist is amazing.  I remember at this point during pregnancy with John, every Dr appointment was all doom and gloom and there was simply no encouragement towards hope.  Now, for SuperTonka, all that is spoken of has hope!  The measurements on the ultrasound say that the Cerebral Spinal Fluid is building within his ventricles.  BUT it also shows that his head is continuing to expand with the ventricles, meaning that there should be less intracranial pressure, therefore less pressure on teh brain matter that is developing which should mean that it is less likely to be damaged.  I know, there are a lot of conditional statements in all of that, but really, we're still in wait and see because we can't test more or know more until he's born!  So our job int eh meantime is to get him here safely.  What we (and the doctors) are currently thinking is that we let him grow for as long as possible before delivery so that he will have the possibility of fewer complications of being early to add to the stresses of the hydrocephalus.  Sometime in the next week or so, the perinatologist, neonatologist and neurosurgeon will have their big monthly sit down and discuss all their current cases that they are working together on, including Alexander!  After this meeting, we will meet with the Neonatologist and get their recommendations, and likely schedule Alexander's arrival!

Please continue to pray for us as we walk this road.  It's definitely not a particularly easy road to walk, even knowing that God is in control and that His grace is sufficient and that we can claim His strength.  We do have to still live this summer, though Hubby doesn't work through the summer since he works for the school board.  And well, while we think we have the right amounts of monies saved for the summer's bills and life, we could be very very wrong about that.  We know that God will provide everything that we need, but please pray that we will take the opportunities that He gives us to earn the funds that we need for continued trips to the specialists, the expected longer than usual stay in the hospital far away from our home, and that we will be fully prepared for whatever comes our way with Alexander's arrival.

Choices

Life is full of choices... and this week, I've been reminded of just how many we have to make.
The kids have stayed up late every night for the past two weeks, why you ask?  Because Hubby and I made the choice to let them.  Why did we make that choice?  because we stumbled across the series The Bible on Netflix and we started watching it.  Ever since the first episode, they've begged to watch the next episode each night!  So, we made a choice, and let them watch it, all of it, yes, even the crucifixion scene.

Daily we are called on to make choices, as people, as parents, and as Christians.  All those titles come into play with every choice that we make.  The choice I had to make for today weighed heavily on me for a day or two until we got to church last night.  It's amazing to me how a Bible lesson meant for teenagers can have such an impact on my life as well.  For me, my difficult choice this week, was this... to attend the Spring football game with my family OR go to Praise Team Rehearsal.  I know, it sounds simple, but it wasn't.  You see, I've made a commitment to my family, and we participate together in 95% of what we do.  I say 95% because well, there are some things that we don't do together... work, praise team rehearsal, mens activities at church, "gender specific" chores. ((Yes, I know that's a totally different blog post, but yes, there are gender specific chores in our house... like the boys take the trash out, mommy and the girls fold laundry and wash dishes, daddy cares for the lawn.... it's how we live, just deal with it ;-))  So. That 5% makes up very little of our lives.

Last football season, even hubby coaching for the high school football team was a family commitment, have you seen how much laundry a football team can create? or how a bunch of football minded coaches take care in organizing an equipment room? or seen a large group of men try to figure out what size game pants need to be passed out every week?  Yup, in steps the mommas who can organize, and for us, that meant many hours of me and the little girls washing, drying and organizing, and then taking the whole family to pass out jerseys and game pants and make sure that everyone was properly suited up for the games.

So, how does one make a decision between cheering on her favorite football team and attending a rehearsal?  Well, eventually it's made pretty simple.  She goes to youth group.  And learns again about choices, and putting God first in all things.  I know I know, it's not like I would be missing a church service, or keeping the kids from a Bible class, it's rehearsal.  BUT. I made a commitment. To rehearse and to sing.  I may never be the next American Idol (great job, Caleb!), thankfully, I'm finally to old to audition... but I love to sing, and joined the praise team at church as a way to sing praise and lead others to worship through song on Sunday mornings.  And if I slacked off at rehearsal and sang without learning the songs or arrangements, well, God can take the not greatest voices and make them sound wonderful while singing His praises, but disharmony and wrong words just aren't acceptable.

So, I'll be at church rehearsing, with the two little girls in tow so that hubby and Bubba can be on the field with the team... knowing that I've made the right decision, to honor my commitment, and that I"m showing my children how to make tough choices by putting God first.

Longest Week Ever... Again

I know, every week seems like it feels like the longest week ever!  Whether it's waiting for payday (yay for paying bills!! LOL), waiting for a vehicle to be repaired (nope, hasn't been dropped off yet, :-)), or waiting for time to pass before it's the day to take a peek at Alexander again!!  Yup, today makes it ONE... MORE... REALLY... LONG... WEEK... until we see the perinatologist next Tuesday morning to see how Alexander is growing!

It's kinda crazy, at that point he'll be 31.5 weeks done growing (normal delivery is at 40, and currently the doctors are suggesting that he's born between 36 and 37 weeks) and only about 5 or 6 weeks from being born!!  ACK!! I'm not ready!  But then again, what mother ever is?  I mean, Alexander is our 6th child.  We've got the infant stuff pretty well under control... feed, burp, change a diaper, rock to sleep,  put him in the wrap and keep going with whatever else is going on!  But the addition another person to the family comes with it's own interesting problems to solve... like, how does a mom make it to the grocery store, without forgetting things, or losing her mind while she's there? Answer... the mind will always be lost, and something will always be forgotten.  How does mom make dinner when sh'es forgotten ingredients at the store? Answer... she's plays Chopped! with what's in the pantry.  Where does everyone sit in the car so that there won't be arguments, and the carseats can be reached to buckle and unbuckle?  Answer, where the seats fit, and they'll have to learn how to get along.  How does a family get to places on time when there are small children and a newborn to deal with?  Answer, well, they just do.  Daddy gets mean reminding mommy of what time it is (sometimes, it's just necessary), everyone has a job to do and does it, and you just go!  I guess what I"m really not feeling ready for is the remembering to pack bottles, and extra outfits, and diapers in two sizes, and yikes... I"m overwhelming myself for no reason, because it all works. As long as everyone works together.

And... I was going to say more... BUT, I'm being paged to pour some juice and snuggle a certain little potty trainer to sleep... it's rough being mommy ;-)